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Donna Kassin: When Death Do Us Part: A Personal Story of Hope

California Gay Marriage Decision: The Battle Is On For Our Freedoms!
By Donna Kassin, Editorial Director – The Real Proposal magazine, May 22, 2008

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  • The May 15, 2008 California Supreme Court ruling legalizing gay marriage in the nation's most populous state almost certainly means same-sex marriage will be an issue in this fall's presidential campaign. We can't say that pleases us, but the California court leaves the political culture little choice. When all is said and done, the decision handed down is outrageous, not just because it redefines marriage and, therefore, ultimately, the definition of what has constituted “family” in this nation since inception, not to mention thousands of years of western culture. It is outrageous because four unelected robes effectively rescinded the ban on gay marriage and, thereby, overturned the will of 61% of the California electorate — 4,618,673 of them to be precise — who voted in 2000 to preserve marriage in state law as the union of one man and one woman. The essence of any democracy rests, ultimately, upon the right of people to decide for themselves the moral rules that govern the nature of the society in which they live. Without that power, they are living under an oligarchy, which this scenario amply demonstrates can be wrought in this country through judicial tyranny. What’s more, anyone who thinks that the watershed issue of same-sex marriage is ultimately about what consenting adults do in the privacy of their bedrooms or a fundamental constitutional right to marry whomever we fall in love or want to form a family with, regardless of their gender, is being either naive, misinformed, misled...or, simply, disingenuous.

We have no Catholic affiliation, but we urge you to view this special AirMaria report regarding the status of religious liberty in America, relative to the ongoing push by activist homosexual lobby groups for full same-sex marriage rights in America. For indeed, anyone who does not recognize or understand the inherent conflicts between same-sex marriage rights being entrenched into law and our religious liberty — and, yes, even our free speech rights — had best wake up and smell the stench of what's festering right under our noses. Moreover, do not expect to be objectively informed on the issues by a largely liberal media that keep us distracted with trivial pursuits and inane drivel disguised as entertainment. As we argued in our last few blog entries, much of the media are now so closely aligned with the LGBT agenda, or involved in heretic pursuits that there is no longer a discernible difference in their apparent cohesive mission with respect to normalizing and legitimizing homosexual behavi


The video references a March 26, 2007 debate within the Connecticut Senate regarding raised House Bill 7395: An Act Concerning Marriage Equality. It highlights the testimony of Brian Brown, Executive director of the Family Institute of Connecticut, who was grilled by the Senate Committee on the question of whether same-sex marriage constitutes a civil right and, unbelievably, even the propriety of his own religious convictions. Mr. Brown, quite rightly, stood his ground and defended both traditional marriage and his religious liberties in a very eloquent and courageous way. But, as the decision by the California Supreme Court to declare as unconstitutional the state ban on same-sex marriage so clearly demonstrates, the kind of orchestrated assault to which Mr. Brown was subjected has not stopped at the Connecticut state line. Indeed, this video presents a good synthesis on what likely happened in the California Supreme Court debate and decision-making process and, indeed, what is happening — and is likely to happen — in state legislatures and judicial branches all over the country.


Moreover, there can no longer be any question that our religious liberties are, indeed, under fire. Just ask Bishop Harry R. Jackson, Jr., whose Hope Christian Church is targeted for an unsolicited visit on May 25 by Soulforce, an activist homosexual lobby group, whose stated mission is to “cut off homophobia at its source — religious bigotry.” In their attempt to encourage the inclusion of gay families in churches, Soulforce has targeted for similar visits Pastor Joel Osteen’s Lakewood Church (May 11), T.D. Jakes’ Potter’s House (May 18), Bishop Eddie Long’s New Birth Missionary Baptist Church (June 1), Bill Hybels’ Willow Creek Community Church (June 9), and Rick Warren’s Saddleback Community Church (Father’s Day, June 16). To which we say, categorically, that homosexuals should always be welcomed within our churches. Christians are called to love the sinner — every kind — not the sin. What remains unclear, however, is whether, by their presence, Soulforce expects the gospel message will be tailored — censored, if you will — to exclude any discussions of, or references to, their lifestyle. But more importantly, when did preaching gospel morality for all people become a form of oppression?



 


The saying is that “as goes California, so goes the nation.” Therefore, those of us who understand what’s really at stake in the battle for marriage as “the union of one man, one woman” had best arm ourselves with a full understanding of the causal issues, and what the arguments on each side are ultimately about. Our opponents are well organized and seriously vested in their game plan. Typically, they oppose any due process that allows the electorate to decide on the definition of marriage, and claim that the Federal Marriage Amendment Bill or a state marriage amendment is unnecessary. But this argument is not just hypocritical and devious; it is outright absurd, especially in light of what has now taken place in California, not to mention Massachusetts in 2003. The “unnecessary” argument, we now know, is a thinly veiled ploy to leave marriage vulnerable to judicial and legislative attack, exactly as several social scientists and conservative think tanks had warned several years ago. Under the Full Faith and Credit Clause  of the United States Constitution, judicial tyranny can spread to other states. Unlike the Massachusetts ruling, there is no residency requirement for same-sex marriage within California, which could effectively force gay marriages to be legally recognized with the full benefits of marriage in states like New York that do not yet expressly have a constitutional amendment banning such unions. In fact, New York's highest court handed same-sex marriage advocates a recent victory by refusing to hear an appeal on an appellate court's groundbreaking ruling that recognized a same-sex couple's Canadian marriage. “If a marriage is valid in the state or county in which the marriage took place, New York law generally requires the recognition of that marriage,” said Arthur Eisenberg, the NYCLU's legal director. “This case involved a straightforward application of that principle.” By letting the earlier ruling stand, valid out-of-state same-sex marriages are recognized by the state of New York.

Ultimately, every state without a constitutional amendment faces the exact same threat as California. Including the results of the 2006 midterm elections, five states recognize some alternative form of same-sex union, twelve states ban any recognition of any form of same-sex unions including civil unions, twenty-five states have adopted amendments to their state constitution prohibiting same sex marriage, and another twenty states have enacted statutory Defense of Marriage Acts (DOMAs).


As revolutionary — or conservative, depending on your worldview — as one might deem it by today’s standards, The Real Proposal magazine endorses neither same-sex marriage, nor civil unions or domestic partnership agreements for either same-sex or heterosexual couples as a matter of basic "fairness" for the very reasons that the California Supreme Court handed down its ruling. Essentially, the court put no stock in the state's argument that same-sex and opposite-sex couples already have equivalent rights under California law. In fact, the 4-3 majority found that the Legislature's decision to treat gay relationships as worthy of marriage-like benefits actually bolstered the plaintiffs' argument that domestic partnerships are discriminatory. Since the Legislature has treated same-sex and opposite-sex couples equally, said the court, withholding the marriage label from gays is a "mark of second-class citizenship." Ironically, the court suggested that it might have reached a more moderate conclusion — such as requiring the Legislature to institute domestic partnerships, rather than to redefine marriage — if lawmakers had not already given substantial benefits to gay couples.


Once “compromise” and “fairness” become the moral standard on which laws are based, as opposed to what's right, there will always be a slippery slope that descends into the kind of ideological morass that we now find ourselves embroiled. Those who have been around the block a few times know this only too well. Compromise in integrity and righteousness always leads to more of the same. And, today, many of us who love this country look on in disbelief at the current cultural landscape — rife with divorce, cohabitation, promiscuity, sexually transmitted disease, single moms, ill-mannered children, failing public schools, substance abuse, domestic violence, abortions, pornography and incivility — and don’t seem to be able to connect the dots regarding how America fell this far this fast.

The gold standard for marriage has always been and should always be “the union of one man, one woman, for life.” Period. No good can result from repeatedly lowering the bar. And, any deviation that society places a stamp of approval on will ultimately lead to familial and societal chaos. Indeed, the court found that California's domestic partnership law, which constitutes marriage in all but name, violates the civil rights of gay citizens. "Separate but equal" in the matter of same-sex marriage is unconstitutional, they ruled. Never mind that the "equal protection of the laws" provided by the Constitution of the United States applies to people, not actions, or that laws exist precisely in order to discriminate between different kinds of behavior or actions. Which sane person could deny the importance of discriminating against certain types of actions? No one is making a ruckus that we have laws that “discriminate” against murderers, thieves, child molesters, cheaters, liars, etc. because their behavior is unacceptable for civilized society. And until Lawrence v. Texas, homosexuality in every state was deemed unacceptable behavior for a host of very valid reasons, including public health.

Moreover, the argument that homosexuals have not been allowed to marry is simply not true. The truth is that, up until the Massachusetts ruling in 2003, which was effected in like manner through judicial decree, everyone in America has had the right to marry…just not someone of the same sex! And if they want marriage, homosexuals should be expected to follow the same rules everyone else does, not have special interest privileges — compromises, essentially — entrenched into law. Furthermore, analogies with bans against interracial marriage are, in a word, bogus. Race is not part of the definition of marriage. A ban on interracial marriage is a ban on the same actions otherwise permitted because of the race of the particular people involved. It is a discrimination against people, not actions. The definition of marriage as the union of a man and a woman does not establish a sexual caste system, or relegate one sex to conditions of social and economic inferiority the way it did for blacks in this country. It does, to be sure, deny the recognition as lawful "marriages" to some forms of sexual combining — including polygyny, polyandry, polyamory, and same-sex relationships. But there is nothing invidious or discriminatory about laws that decline to treat all sexual wants or proclivities as equal. People are equal in worth and dignity, but sexual choices and lifestyles are not.

People in favor of homosexual unions and gay marriage typically argue that if gays are allowed to marry, it will not hurt their own marriage. Therefore, why should they care about gay marriage? They also argue that society should not dictate whom we should love. Both of these, however, are ad hominem arguments that obfuscate the real issue by changing the subject. The issue of gay marriage is ultimately about whether or not we, as a society, will confer the moral equivalence of heterosexual relationships to homosexual unions. And those of us who disagree with such liberal — and, some would argue, even immoral — thought have as much right as anyone else to dissent privately, or in the public square without censorship, fear of harassment, or reprisals. In any event, the faulty, underlying premise of these arguments is that gay marriages and relationships do not intrinsically affect anyone else’s marriage or relationships at a personal level. But we are certain that the spouses that have lost their marriages by the “coming out” of their closeted counterparts previously on the "down low," and those children that are devastated by a change in the sexual orientation of a parent would beg to differ. Moreover, such arguments are logically flawed. If we only cared about laws that affected us directly in a radical individualistic way, as opposed to those that affect families, societies, and nations, then we shouldn’t oppose child molesters, drug abusers, wife beaters, or a host of other gross violations that don’t directly affect us. Furthermore, it is the institution of marriage and, therefore, the fundamental essence of marriage as the union between one man and one woman that is being challenged and overturned. And it is only by being disingenuous and self-serving that anyone could argue in any reasonable debate that there are no psychological and developmental consequences for the offspring produced by, or engineered for such unions. Men and women — regardless of what feminists preach — are not social constructs with different genitalia. Neither are they interchangeable parts in a family equation.


What makes the California ruling so remarkable — and suspect — is the fact that it is the first court since Massachusetts in 2003 to rule that prevailing marriage laws constitute unconstitutional discrimination. Courts in Maryland, New York, and Washington as well as three international courts have since rejected that argument and upheld marriage laws against claims of discrimination. Now, however, every state without a constitutional amendment faces the exact same threat as California of having un-elected judges trample the will of the people. But thanks to the 1.1 million Californians who signed petitions to get a constitutional amendment on the ballot this November, activist judges will not have the last word in California. California voters will. And that’s a good thing, considering the fact that California governor Arnold Schwarzenegger’s stance on this judicial ruling is a disgraceful betrayal of public trust. Imagine the hubris, which leads him to believe that the majority of his constituents have no idea what's best for them, or that his allegiance is better served at the altar of the Supreme Court than those who put him in office and made clear their will through Proposition 22. The truth of the matter is that, by this ruling, 61 percent of Californians — his constituents — have been deemed bigots. And, as the AirMaria video so forcefully highlights, there are consequences for such “bigotry” if this ruling stands without a constitutional amendment from either the federal or state legislature.

Without question, the California Supreme Court decision to strike down that state's ban on same-sex marriage as unconstitutional is playing with fire. It will radically change society as we have known it in ways that are still unimaginable to most people. And what is particularly amazing is that virtually none of the millions who support this decision — let alone the four "compassionate" justices — acknowledge this. Ultimately, the definition of marriage is not a judge's decision. It's not a politician's decision. God help us to do not what is politically expedient but what will preserve what our founding fathers intended as a legacy for our progeny. God help us also to win this battle for our freedoms, and America’s soul.




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